Patience - an advantage or weakness

"A handful of patience is worth more than a bushel of brains."

Sounds interesting but what happens when this patience is taken for granted. Most common example is the ladies shopping in a shopping mall. Patience is directly proportional to money spent. Recently I lost something bcoz I was very patient and then i realize that at times its good to be aggressive otherwise there are ppl around you to snatch away things.

There should be a device patiencometer to measure the level of patience. Then we can define the max, min, avg and ideal patience at different times.

Changing with time

Seasons change with time...Trees change with time....Air, water, rocks, soil anything you can think of changes with timeInfact your skin, hones, hair etc. all changes with time.I cannot think of a single thing which does not change with timeThen What is the problem if mt attitude changes with time?
Recently I have felt this happening more often, people comment that my behaviour has changed. Changed, in what way? And the response comes you have become rude, strict and blunt. Ok even if I accet it here is my point. I'm no longer a kid. I have responsiblities, commitments and several other things to think about. Let me ask this, what is the wrong if I have to change myself to adjust in the atmosphere around me.

I would say I have become more straight forward to speek upfornt about something, if you call this rudeness then yes I'm rude. My argument is my surrondings demand it so I have to give it else things won't work out the way they should be.

Surrondings...lets talk a little about it. I live in a shared appartment. When you talk about shared apparments there are a lot of things that you have to think about. Compromise at times and adjust to things. The problem is not just being in shared apartment but ppl come in for sometime and go. I have stayed with many ppl now and I know there are very few who want to do some adjustments/compromises to work out things smoothly.

There are instances where ppl don't know somethings or does not understand something or have to follow some instructions. Am I not the one whoz is responsible to make the guys coming over and staying with me to be aware of such things. They cannot expect the comfort and carelessness that hey used to have back at home. If u call this as strict, yes I'm strict and I can't help not being it. Should not they understand that the things that I'm telling are for there good or infact for our good. I'm not a dictator but if there are things which are useful for us then why not apply them. I've also had instances where ppl want changes to the instructions and I'm perfectly ok with that but some of them just don't come up with good ideas but want things according to there flexiblity. And I guess here is when I become blunt. Trying making them understand that the things have to be acceptable to everybody. Think with a broad mind and come up with ideas where everybody has equal to give and take. "Negative things are more clearly visible than the positive things".

Everything changes with time but only physically. God has given us a mind which not only changes with time but with the surrondings and conditons one lives in. This is where change in a Human being is different from change in other things.

My question is what is wrong if a person changes himself/herslef with time and situation?

Don't just see the dark side. Well whatever may be the answer I'm gonna stick to my changes for the time i'm in shared appartments and will take the future as it comes.....

himmat karne walon ki haar nahi hoti....

Here comes my tommorow (after 3 days :)) ) with an inspiring poem.....I know many won't understand it but....
let me know if need assistance at some point.


lehron se dar kar nauka paar nahi hoti
himmat karne walon ki haar nahi hoti....

nanhi chinti jab dana lekar chalti hai
chadti deewaron par sau baar fisalti hai
mann ka vishwas ragon mein sahas banta hai
chad kar girna, gir kar chadna na akharta hai
akhir uski mehnat bekar nahi hoti
koshish karne waalon ki haar nahi hoti....

dubkiyan sindu mein gota khor lagata hai
ja ja kar khali haath laut aata hai
milte na sehej hi moti pani mein
behta duna utsah issi heiraani mein
mutthi uski khali har baar nahi hoti
himmat karne walon ki haar nahi hoti....

asaflta ek chunati hai sweekar karo
kya kami reh gayi dekho aur sudhaar karo
jab tak na safal ho neend chain ki tyago tum
sangharshon ka maidaan chhod mat bhago tum
kuch kiye bina hi jai jai kaar nahi hoti
himmat karne walon ki haar nahi hoti....

Maine Gandhi ko nahi maara

First of all Thanks a ton dear friend Shruthi who referred me to this site. Infact didn't refer but sent her own blogger link which gave me idea to be part of it. It's difficult for me to talk to anybody abt myself so thought this could be the place where i can talk to myself. Very quickly i get bored of things but I hope this will stay and work good for me. So here I start.

Yesterday night Iwatched a Bollywood movie "Maine Gandhi ko nahi maara". It touched me to heart, how simple things can make difference in your life. I liked it and enjoyed it, especially the poem in the movie.....

Himmat karne waalon ki haar nahi hoti....

don't remember it completely now, will complete it tomorrow.